Relationships

All painful memories and unprocessed stresses linger within our nervous system, in particular, a branch of our nervous system, which mediates the ‘fight or flight’ response. Whenever this gets triggered, one of the side effects is that we become emotive and often irrational.

Unfortunately, due to the challenges of modern life, we find this part of the nervous system far more active than is beneficial to harmonious relations. As a result, we are much closer to the trigger point.

Worse, evolution has created a situation where specific functions within the mind, body and nervous system shut down when we are stressed. And this often exacerbates the issue.

Take, for example, the hippocampus, the part of our brain that processes the storage and recall of information. When we’re stressed, this becomes impaired. With each impairment, all sorts of irrelevant stimuli can come to be associated with a painful memory. All of a sudden, the intensity and flavour of an old past hurt comes to the fore, even when it has only the vaguest connection to a prior fault-line. Our response network has now been hijacked by old memories and patterning. 

Our conscious mind doesn’t stand a chance!

Beeja meditation can help us develop our nervous system so that it no longer has a hold over us. This is vital for improving our personal and professional relationships.

By meditating with a personalised mantra that soothes the mind and nervous system, we can enter a state of deep relaxation where we begin, spontaneously, to heal past hurts.

The body’s natural creative intelligence responds to the mantra by quietly disposing of all our old rubbish. It resets the nervous system and enables a more sustainable level of balance; meaning we create more and more distance between ourselves and our innate reactions.

New inter-neuronal connections form as old ones, which have been storing and activating festering emotions, are quietly thrown away. 

We become more pleasant to be around, more engaged and more loving towards the people we love.

We become less judgemental, but more understanding and more patient. Meditators always report they are better at expressing themselves and having a greater awareness of others. Mental clarity and greater confidence help to achieve this.

And because our nervous system is in a much calmer, we take things far less personally and are more perceptive and attentive listeners.

When we feel complete as a person, it’s much easier to give and share ourselves with others.

We don’t even have to try. (And we also know what we’re about to say sounds mega cheesy, but…!) Love flows spontaneously from a contented heart. 

Meditation also delivers a useful ability to let go when a relationship has lost its relevance; no more holding on for fear of the unknown. 

When we are filled up from within, we become free of fear and free of need. We are happy to inject life into everything that is relevant to us and to gracefully close the chapter on anything irrelevant, and we do so in a way that is beneficial to all.

The result is a consistent improvement in our personal and work relationships.